Get out of an energy of lack
We tend to think about abundance in terms of getting but, in truth, the easiest way to get out of an energy of lack is to give.
This includes giving time and love to your Tricky Person, learning to be in tune with them, stepping into their shoes, trying to listen first, suggest rather than demand, deal with issues when everyone has calmed down a bit, and heart connecting.
One of the kindest things you can do for your Tricky Person (and yourself) is to be Mindful and to be kind to yourself. Don’t try to put a “positivity plaster” on.
It is OK not to feel OK as long as you listen to that and look after yourself.
BEING MINDFUL YOU
Look at your Tricky Person through a beginner’s eyes and using all your senses. With an open heart, without judgment, with curiosity, being filled with loving-kindness.
If that is difficult to do right now because your relationship is so broken get out the wedding pictures, the memory book, the baby pictures, go back in time to the Infant School Nativity, remember what your parents or friends or colleagues have done for you, whatever you need to do to flood yourself with feel-good hormones – Serotonin the happy hormone, and Oxytocin the love and bonding hormone.
You can be a meditative and mindful anywhere. Practice mindful walking, sitting in silence with a cuppa, your mind will wander, that is fine, practice will quieten it. Often what you really need to hear comes up in the silence.
The Universe supports us when we are being supportive. Love creates more flow. Service creates more
alignment. So simply be kind and do kind things for someone else.
Dr Wayne Dwyer – “When you ask yourself how can I serve, the universe responds how can I serve you”
There is more than enough to go around. Seek out one way each day to serve others and you will see your own abundance skyrocket.
And remember that you will only have the energy to be compassionate when your own cup is full so be kind to yourself first. As my coaches Donna and Cheryl say “Self-Compassion is your Birth right”
Dr. David Hamilton, has a Ph.D. in organic chemistry and specialises in educating people on how
they can harness their minds and emotions to improve their health. David is an advocate for kindness and is working passionately to help inspire a kinder world.
His 5 Side Effects of Kindness are that it makes us happier, is good for the heart, slows ageing, improves relationships and is contagious. Read More.
Mindfulness and Kindfulness are part of the 6 Proven Steps to Connecting Heartfully
The Heartfulness Coach
PS Doing your Heartful Breathing every day is a really important part of being
kind to yourself. It brings together Mindfulness, Meditation, and Manifesting in one simple practice that gives the body rest far deeper than sleep. Click here for a free audio.