Your word is your will. Your words, to yourself and others, are like seeds that you plant in the soil of your subconscious mind. You can consciously create by choosing the words that you use.
We talk to ourselves constantly and the relationship that we have with ourselves is the most important one of all. You are with yourself 24/7 – so if what you are saying to you isn’t kind, inspirational, and uplifting……happiness and high vibration are much harder to attain. Getting to grips with your self-talk is crucial.
When was the last time that you gave yourself loving-kindness, talked kindly to yourself and it landed, you believed it in your heart?
Beliefs are just thoughts that you keep thinking which then fuse and start to form your identity. They aren’t who you are. A lot is based on tapes from childhood which are someone else’s thoughts. You can change thought and therefore a belief.
What kinds of things do you say to yourself daily?
So, try listing the “Good” Things You Say to Yourself and the “Bad” Things You Say to Yourself, about all aspects of your life like Money & Career, Relationships & Love, Health & Wellness, and Creative Expression
Using the relationship with my Tricky Teen as an example;
BAD – I am a crap Mum to my Tricky Teen……GOOD – I am a great Mum to my other child
BAD – I often don’t like my Tricky Teen….GOOD – I have a big heart & deep down love my daughter
What stands out to you from what you’ve written?
So, for me when I did this exercise in full there is much more “good” stuff than “bad” but the energy of the bad seems to carry more weight/ drag me down/ make me tired
I am at my wit’s end with Tricky Teen’s mental health and inability to help herself and her self-loathing. I am coming at it from masculine problem-solving energy, and I struggle to be kind. This situation exhausts me, she is my life lesson big time.
I think she reminds me of my over-anxious emotional rollercoaster mum, and I often felt helpless on that journey too.
Then it is good to focus on clearing those old unhelpful beliefs and firing up your empowering beliefs, making them Bigger, Bolder, and Brighter?
So, old unhelpful belief – “I am a bad mum/ mean to my Tricky Teen” – I will turn into an affirmation which I will read and say to myself every day – either out loud or in my head
My new positive affirmation “My Tricky Teen is here to teach me, and I positively embrace her helping me to be the great mum that I know in my heart that I am”
If any of your unhelpful beliefs are around a Tricky Relationship, then you may find my Free Ditch the Guilt Guide helpful – Click Here
Nice Kind Self Talk is part of the 6 Proven Steps to Connecting Heartfully
The Heartfulness Coach